I slept and dreamt that life was joy. I awoke and saw that life was duty. I worked—and behold, duty was joy. This beautiful quote from Victor Frankel’s book “Yes to Life” offers a revealing truth. Life isn’t “out there.”…

Jeffrey Stein, my cousin in law, just sent me a video (very Mary Tyler Moore- ish) that inspired the following. Petey knew way back she’d live her life “in the moment.” It’s at this moment I had to write this …I’ve got some amazing…

Maybe you like me are exhausted hearing about Millennials and Generation Zs congregating in groups … world wide. Spreading what now is the widest infections of COVID 19 so far! Attempts to contain these “children” has proven unsuccessful…

One key when coaching is what I call one’s “preferred future.” Questions like “Who am I?” … “Where am I going?” … “What am I called to do?” I believe you eventually become what you think about. So define it. Visualize…

It’s a month before my 75th birthday. A good friend of mine wanted to help me celebrate! While at lunch one day he asked me this. “You’ve coached literally hundreds of people over decades. Is there a common “thread” in each of them…

There’s been quite a lot of commotion these days about the emergence of “Zoom.” A fabulous new technology actually. At the beginning of this year? Zoom sessions totaled about 10M per month. Today meetings, events, cocktail hours. Wow!…

An unexpected emotional aspect of this virus mess for me? A deepened feeling of sentimentality. Even a little check in with my mortality. People today say we’re realizing those things in life that are “really important, that matter”…

You get out of bed ... you brush your teeth ... you eat your breakfast ... you go to work ... you come home ... you eat dinner ... you go to bed. Then you do it ... all over again. Or at least you used to. Remember that TV Ad? All the things…

Nancy and I watched a movie the other day. “I Still Believe” won’t win Academy Awards. But that afternoon it was surely worthy of one. A box of used Kleenex was piled between us after viewing. A true, inspiring, and yet very sad…

A revered friend of mine passed away last year. Most of us fear dying or getting seriously illness. He knew he was going to die. His cancer was terminal. I flew to Philadelphia last summer a few months before he died to essentially say goodbye.…

Events of the past two weeks, the last two days really. Have certainly been “times that try men’s souls.” Shaken my foundation. The pace of change for me has never been this breathtaking. Not only am I not alone ... all on earth are…

She’s my little sister. “Chrost” is our loving nickname for her. She was born five years behind me. She’ll never be as old as me ... but she’ll always be very special to me.Seventy ... 70 great years with Christine. Fun times, some…

The following is a revision ... a reprint of a post from 2017. The “Fahey Cup” lives on. We will gather to celebrate our 20th “Fahey” next year at Essex County Club ...The first “Fahey Cup" took place in 2001 at Essex County Club…

Bobby Cox ... “Bobby” as he is known here in Atlanta and throughout all of Major League Baseball was the legendary manager of the Atlanta Braves for an astounding twenty seven years. Under his leadership the Braves won fourteen consecutive…

A repeat of a Holiday message originally written and  posted in December of 2016. Merry Christmas to all ...Al Bailey’s my newspaper guy. For 26yrs he has delivered my morning paper. 5:15am every morning, double wrapped rain…

My Aunt Sis died yesterday. Sadness for sure. But at 90? Good for her. Wow! Did the memories flood in as I talked on my phone ... to my brother, my sister, my cousins. The word that springs to my mind as I remember her ... “elegant” Was…

In a ancient times there lived two groups of people who lived in villages adjacent to one another. Times were trying. Survival ... existence was what most of life was about. Food and water were scarce. They all lived in tattered clothing.…

Friends ask every once in awhile, “Are you Ok?” Think I’m nuts when I write about some things. This may be one. But just me. Here goes… Sometimes a  quick flash in time ... a moment can hit me. Never defining. Just a bright sliver…

One of the challenges one faces later in life is the passing of friends ... maybe especially, old friends. Because with old friends the history is so rich. The memories rush to mind. Tears well as I recount them in most cases. Not just for…

Yesterday I read an eighty year study at Harvard on “happiness.” Involved a couple of thousand men, women. What makes one happy? Riches ... accomplishments ... pride ... status. All the things we strive for. Are these really key to what…

I always have a hard time when a coaching relationship comes to an end. As most do. Some only last a month. I have two that have lasted over fifteen years. A coaching process of mine that spanned almost three years ended last week. Let me…

I had lunch with a good friend of mine yesterday. Good because we are extremely open ... vulnerable with one another. Granted we’re both right brainers ... emotional, instinctive, very people oriented. We soar from topic to topic. Share…

What is wisdom? While the definition my be elusive, we usually know it when we see it. Don’t we. Typically, my “older” friends come across as wise. But why? As I thought about it? Experience may be the primary ingredient in wisdom.…

... failure is never fatal. I learned the other day that if a shark stops swimming ... it will die. It needs to keep swimming to keep oxygen rich water flowing through it’s gills. Of course without rest and sleep ... we would…

As the common saying goes, “There’s no “I” in team.” No I agree. But great teamwork requires many “eyes” to be successful doesn’t it.Consider a slam dunk when eye contact from the passer sends the dunker to the rim. Consider…

As a coach I’m absolute with all I work with ... you must reach outside yourself with your aspirations, desires, define your end game. Life with purpose is as essential as the air we breathe. Gives us a vibrancy that colors the journey.This…

What could I possibly mean by these? Well, I’ve decided to act, behave differently every time I sit at a bar, fly in a plane or get my haircut. What do all these experiences have in common? People. Usually to my right. My left. People I…

“Vulnerability and trust are kissin’ cousins.”I’ve shared this thought with those I coach for years. Putting yourself at risk ... emotional risk. Being open. The most difficult risk to take in life? ... the emotional risk.Showing…

A friendship. One seeded in college. But it really sprouted five years ago. With a Diet Coke in Wilmington. DE, A three hour conversation and we bonded. But as we have since shared ... a bit unexpectedly. We all know those friends who…

No ... I’m not referring to 💤💤s ... as in sleep. Rather I’m remembering the gathering of dear relatives of mine, I’ll call them “Zs”  ... last Sunday in Doylestown, PA. The occasion? The Easter Sunday christening of the…

The Tiger Woods story will be told for years to come. A legendary athletic feat that stunningly evolved before our eyes last week. Maybe never to have a parallel in sports ... life even.Not to overdramatize, but the dynamics of Tiger’s…

The following is a piece I sent to Nancy’s sister. We’ve shared laughs over the years about those we’ve known who simply always take themselves way too seriously ... like this gal here. Camille. We’re at Runaway Hill on Harbor…

I watch TV commentary a lot. I go to Starbucks most mornings. I talk to millennials. One thing I’ve noticed that these experiences have in common? Everything runs at high speed today.Technology has been defining. Of our culture, all the…

My father was an unforgettable character. A great athlete, wonderful provider. And even though he rarely told me so ... very proud of me.He taught me many lessons. None more important than this one. “Be yourself.” This piece of advice…

Life is finite. This comes front and center for me at weddings and funerals. The beginnings of the new, and all the promise ahead. The endings honoring lives well lived.As glorious and saddening as both events are? For me? There is one inescapable…

“What a great time,”A simple phrase Nancy and I share when being with another couple. Hard to find two people you both like. Sound familiar. Usually like either lemon or lemonade. But you know what’s usually key to having a good time…

After 50+ years of building, working with teams large and small, I have learned one indisputable thing. Culture trumps strategy ... every time.Early in 2017 I had lunch with a guy a client of mine wanted me to check out for him. He arrived…

Our President. Trump, “Hits Back!”Well, he does. But what if he didn’t? At least not quite as much. Let me share a story that may help address this question. Legendary hockey player Mark Messier starred in the NHL for a quarter of a…

The status quo dies hard. After all it has one of the most powerful forces on the planet as its ally. Fear. Changing things disrupting status quo can be scary.Fear is ... the enemy of change... stealer of ambition... the champion of the half…

We all have friendships. Those you have had for awhile. New ones. Maybe you’ve moved, retired somewhere or just met some friends along the way. Friends are key. Children move on to build their own lives and families. Close relatives…

Italy... 2018. Check out the impassioned words of our exceptional guide Mario Marcosano as Nancy and I journeyed through southern Italy last week ...“Ladies and gentlemen. I couldn’t help but notice Bob and Nancy holding hands yesterday…

America has lost a hero. That term may be overused. But Charles Krauthammer was certainly a hero. He died last week. Charles was the essence of integrity, authenticity and grace. Fox News aired a special last Friday. A rich, vibrant recounting…

May 21-25, 2018Have you ever had one of those magical weeks? You know six or seven days in a row when everything just clicks? I have. My last one was just last week. Where do I start … A warning. This post may resemble War and Peace before…

The term, "experience of a lifetime”may be overused when describing a trip, an event you don’t forget. You know … just a great time. This week I had a just a great time! An experience that will resonate with me … for one long time.Two…