We face key decisions in life. Marriage … career choice … even which car to buy. Each brings with it a combination of stimuli (facts, thoughts, emotions) that need to be sorted out. Applied effectively in order for important decisions to work out well. Ultimately, we are the product of the decisions we make. Throughout “The […]

Her energy is infectious … her love for her family? Unwavering. Her personality? More to follow. When she speaks? Well, let me just say. I never knew there were that many words in the English language. Nancy and I haven’t known Mary and her husband Dan for long. So regret we didn’t meet decades ago.  But have […]

There are those few rare people I meet who are truly dedicated to a life of service. Those who just seem to know a lot. People who you go to. Who you know will always be there … put you first. Melanie Germany was, still is one of those people.  She “retired” from my local […]

CONNECTIONS the book I’m writing is an extension of my six year blog, “The Space Between the Notes” The pauses, “spaces” … the discernment that needs to precede key decisions we make in life. Precede many of our day to day decisions as well. I call “spaces” great not because they are thunderous. Dramatic events […]

We’ve all heard the phrase “idle” threats. Whether your raising a child or training a dog … these don’t work. I’ve worked with business leaders who bark at their people constantly. They think, “The more often … the louder I shout my commands. The more they’ll obey and change.” Of course you know where I’m […]

He’s unique. Simply one of a kind. I’ve known him for over twenty years. Have sat in the first row watching him take on all comers while “in the arena.” He’s invited me in. Into his life. His passions. His intimate, so intimate love of his family. That’s him above with his son, Omar Andres. […]

Decisions. Those points in time that define your life. Truth? You are the product of the decisions you make. For sure. Analyzing, rationalizing facts, weighing the pluses and minuses. The intellectual necessities. Essential. I’ve spent a lifetime interviewing candidates for jobs, transitioning professionals through careers, helping people navigate crucial times in their lives. My coaching? […]

 The following piece was written for a book I’m writing. CONNECTIONS will take the reader through my lifetime experiences. Those messages and learning I’m committed to leave as a legacy. Beyond the material … focused on my most important things. At the introduction of this book I mention “fireflies.” Quiet messages I get in early […]

… but the emotions never die. THE WORLD SERIES has come to Atlanta!! I was watching the recap of the Braves stunning third win last night over the Houston Astros. Peering through bleary eyes … after another third exhausting midnight TV vigil. During post game interviews … “I remember …” was the constant refrain as Braves […]

Being a people guy, I’ve met, worked with … we’ll let me think. Yep. Hundreds of people. Every once in awhile someone will be in front who I’m curious about. “What is it?, I ask myself. Kind of an energy thing. There’s something different about this one. Handsome? The eye contact? Don’t fully know. Just […]

Writing is revealing what’s inside of us. Writing is a process in which we discover what lives in us. The writing itself reveals to us what is alive in us. The deepest satisfaction of writing is precisely that it opens up new spaces within us of which we were not aware before we started to […]

 “You know, I just don’t know how I can do this anymore.” Thus began a challenging conversation I had with a coachie recently. He told me the story about an argument he’d had with his wife.  It was over her inability to make decisions. Put things off until the last minute. “She’s just driving me […]

Here’s a short piece that I think can make a difference …Full disclosure her. I live in Atlanta. But I grew up in Philadelphia. On the Main Line. The bastion of debutante, cocktail parties, people who live very active social lives. Maybe too social. I have a bias. I love authentic people. You know. No […]

Kind of a weird title, huh. Really no other way to describe it. “”Vomiting” is as close as I can come to describing this. Let me explain.Someone told me the other day they’d just done a “body cleanse.” I don’t mean they traveled to the Nile River as some in India do. Just a period […]

He’s 22. Doesn’t speak English. Don’t know how he did in school. No college for sure. But don him in a baseball uniform … release him to run around a baseball field? He’s a Ferrari. Ronald Acuna Jr. is, well … just a phenom. Plays outfield for the Atlanta Braves. When he’s in a game? […]

Margin A behavioral edge that can be thedifference between win or loss.Competency or inadequacy … Here is one of the most impactful teachings I pass on to my all my coachies.. Those who come to me for help have a lotta guts. It’s not easy to open yourself up to someone you don’t know that […]

DISCIPLINE Orderly or prescribed conduct; anorganized pattern of behavior;  Self control. One of the most important characteristics of successful people I’ve worked with over decades? Discipline. The propensity, certainty to do what one commits to doing. Simply, doing what you say you’re going to do. We all know for the most part what we need […]

Something as simple as a Diet Coke. Sometimes that’s all it takes. I actually prefer Coke Zero. But it was a Diet Coke (actually it was The Diet Coke) … five years ago that led me to someone I wasn’t looking for. Never really expected to connect with. But I did. All because of … The Diet Coke. The occasion? An annual gathering […]

There’s the old adage … If a tree falls in the woods and no one is around to hear it …does it make a sound? I was at the dentist last week. I’ve had the same hygienist for years. She’s pretty, fun. Good at what she does. I asked her, “On a scale of of […]

I watched a Netfix series this week. “Surviving Death” a documentary questioning, “Is there life after death?” Is there a “different” consciousness, presence once we pass on? Pretty compelling evidence that, yes there is. Made me “feel” … reach for the most important person in my life … no longer here. My mom. Picture yours […]

One of my dearest friends … a true mentor of mine, died this afternoon. A kinder more elegant man I never knew. I’m picturing him in my mind at this very moment. And I’m reposting my blog post from July 2018 honoring him. Expressing how much he meant to me? This picture was taken outside […]

The definition of “merry” … cheerful and lively. This year? Well, maybe not so much. We’ve been knocked off course. We may feel a little more sullen, gloomy this Christmas. “It’s just not the same.” True. But many have cited unexpected benefits in the slowing of life that has emerged as today’s challenges hit us all pretty […]

What if you could go back in time and relive a day, or a week in your life … where would you go? To an unforgettable vacation. To reunite with a loved one? Where? Wouldn’t it be wonderful if you could go back and fix that mistake? Heal a sorrow. Relive a relationship you once […]

It’s Thanksgiving. And this comes to mind?! Maddening sometimes. But, well. Here goes … Am I crazy? Sure. I think we all are. It’s just a matter of degree. It’s 4am. I awoke this morning with new “messages.” I get these most mornings. This morning? Something a great new friend laid on me yesterday. “Bob, you’re […]

My sister in law had heart surgery yesterday. Serious. Possibly critical. My mind, emotions became heavy right away. Nancy and I were facing the possibility of great loss. Tragedy. This was unexpected. We’d experienced loss with, through friends. “Oh no, did you hear about —-?!” “ I feel so for —.” Truly concerned. But from […]

Life is like a movie playing before your eyes.  Sounding in your ears. Senses … that serve as a lens that focuses our perception of what’s going on at any given moment. Is the “movie” simply what we see? What is? Immutable? Something over which we have no control? Has the script of the movie […]

Countless books have been written on the subject of leadership. Wondrous heroes, larger than life people who have imprinted many lives with their courage, their imagination. The legacies they are building or have left behind … define them.  We marvel. “Isn’t (wasn’t) he/she amazing?” They all possess their own uniqueness. Their stories so compelling. Lincoln, […]

I listened to a wonderful audio interview this morning with Robert Franklin, former president of Morehouse College and Visiting Professor at Stanford University’s Martin Luther King Jr. Research and Education Institute. He was interviewed by the Rector of the Episcopal Church I attend here in Atlanta joined by Natasha Reid Rice, Associate Rector. Dr. Franklin […]

The quote below should remind us all that we have a choice at key moments in time.To see either a rising or a setting sun. Our perspective, our attitude facing what we’re dealing with? Will be largely determinant of the ultimate outcome. This could not be more true today … Whilst the last members were […]