No Words …
Writing my book CONNECTIONS reveals for me a fundamental truth. Trying to describe some of the most cherished realities in life? Most times … there are no words. Love, faith, “describe the feeling.” What is spiritually? What is happiness? How ‘bout that incredible stunt that magician just pulled off?
No words.
Love may be the most challenging of life’s realities to find words for. CONNECTIONS attempts to describe all the wordless magic we experience every day.
I’ve always marveled how professional musicians, gifted performers, athletes … can rarely describe how they do it. Especially after an important or dramatic win. Some talk about a trance like state they go into when at the height of a performance.
Others simply shake their head and exclaim, “I really don’t know how I did it. I have no words.”
There are simply, no words.
The same is true of any extraordinary accomplishment or victory.. How many times have we heard this … “I’m at a loss for words.” Or “I’m speechless.” In fact, if you’re able to clearly describe an experience, maybe it’s not as special as one you can’t describe.
Last Sunday I just watched a show featuring Adele … the incredibly talented songstress. In addition to her amazing musical performance she interviewed with Oprah Winfrey between sets. Casual, relaxed. She laughed when Oprah tried to get her to describe how she “does it.”
Adele just laughed. She had … no words.
Yesterday I watch “Brian Wilson” … a flick honoring the fabulous songwriter, performer who created “The Beachboys.” He was being interviewed. Brian is 79. He has suffered from a rare form of schizophrenia for most of his adult life. The interviewer asked, “Brian, many of your peers call you a genius. Elton John, Bruce Springsteen. All say there will never be an artist as accomplished as you.” Can you tell me how you do it? “No” … he replied. Brian Wilson had no words.
When a friend lives through grief because of the death of a loved one. The advice given you so often … “Just be there.” No words necessary.
Becoming a grandparent! I’ve described this as the most unexpected, joyous event in life. A incredible surprise! There are no words to describe the feeling.
So, the next time you make eye contact with another person. Whether it be in amazement. In anger or with love. With empathy or with sympathy. Think about it. Think about the connection between the two of you at that moment. No words needed. No words apply.
There are simply … no words.