“It Was a Very Good Year”

For those who can remember… the melodious tones of Frank Sinatra. A very good year. What was your best year? Days, hours, moments? Think back. Times in the “zone”, on a roll! Tears of joy… times you’ll never forget? Go ahead, go there… right now. I’ll join you. Watching my granddaughter perform in a play … so young, so talented, so wondrous. Tears of joy. On stage speaking to a group… so totally confident, fluid, engaging… little movement of heads, “pin drop” silence while I spoke… Chills! “Got ’em!” That first embrace with my wife Nancy. With a my sister, brother. A phone call with an old friend… many miles away, but feeling they are right there next to me. Timeless. What were your “best”? Those times that touched you. Feelings?… Feel your emotions? Friends, loved ones, experiences! … they leave us, but the emotions never die, do they? Hmm maybe we’re onto something.

And you say… “Why do you go here, Bob?” Because your ability to truly feel your emotions is one of God’s greatest gifts. Agree? But when was the last time you really felt your feelings? Good and bad! Try right now. Let go. Sure if you harken back to your past… maybe, but what about now… right at this moment! Ok? Hard to get there amidst all the stuff you’re dealing with daily? You love your family. Do you tell them? No~not “love you” the shortcut. Rather “l love you” I love you so much” There.

I’ve learned after engaging with my coach, that until you truly feel your feelings… real joy… sensitivity, happiness, yes sorrow too… joy will elude you. Be just out of reach.. “Oh, sure, Bob. Easy for you to say. Retired, working with passion on your “hobby”… helping people grow.” Nice deflection, detour. Nice try! Now again, when was the last time you truly felt your feelings? The mantra in our society?… “Men should never cry, women should never get angry.” Really? How many times have you heard someone apologize for their tears? “I’ll get through this.” Get through what? Let them flow. Experience the gift. The gift of your own, personal… unique feelings.

Bottom Line:  So… meditate, sit on a porch, or in a park, let the breeze soothe you. Feel it? Quiet time. Pick your place. In gratitude… bring forth that year, that day, those moments, those feelings that never die so they might resonate once more.