Gratitude, expectation, resolution. A time to begin anew… birth new ways if living, explore new possibilities. So vivid with hope. And always faced as well with the challenges to succeed.This is where I start with the new year. Looking through the “Rearview Mirror” to grasp what I learned last year. Then turning my gaze to the “Windshield” to map a course for the year ahead.

Not easy… not meant to be. It was once said, “Potential means you just ain’t done it yet.” Indeed the great majority of us will not actualize the things we identify and “commit” to as the new year unfolds. Human nature? “What’s the use?” “I’m really Okay.” “ It’s comfortable just being me.” A few of the rationalizations we use to deflect and avoid feelings of potential failure… as we “resolve” to change… this year.But wow! I have still have the chance… today!! To change!

Drop a few bad habits, change few behaviors, embrace a new attitude. Or to use the old catch phrase, “Just be a better person.” Very aspirational. But normally not very effective. Why? Because deep down, I really don’t want to change. I just “hope” I can.Then I go to this. What if I took just two things I want to focus on? Not high level aspirations like those above. Two specific things I really want to change… or amplify, do more of.My two?Every day… love myself more.Every day share my love with others.. more.(Meditate, pray for both… every morning. Write these down. Read them first thing every day.)

Why these two? Because after seventy two yrs on this earth I’ve learned that the center of all we are … is love.Love myself and I open new space to love others. Love others and enchantment follows… always.I love who I am… but I know there is so much more… whatever your age. I know that in the end… love is all there is.And those behaviors? Those aspirations? I have a better chance to embrace them, own them… truly commit to them if I know they will help me love me … love others, more as well.

So… what are your two? What are the two resolutions you can choose to own, commit to. That’s all! Two you will truly implement today in the spirit of loving yourself. Who will hold you accountable? Remember, “The mirror is a terrible accountability partner.” Connect with a trusted friend. Set realistic deadlines. Pick times in the early weeks of the year to check in with yourself… to access how you’re doing. But two… only two.How many of us will actually try the above?

Takes a little courage. A honest commitment to grow. A desire to take responsibility.The choice is mine. The choice is yours.